My first job out of college I worked for a father and son, and son team. If I didn’t believe that every career challenge served to make you stronger, I would say that accepting that position was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. The boss was the most chauvinistic, incompetent man I’d ever met, and his sons spent their days vying for the title. It didn’t take long for me to realize that I’d signed up to be a character in the middle of one of the worst family dramas I’d ever witnessed.
Family owned business have their benefits. They can be more loyal to employees than large corporations, and they tend to be more family oriented. On the downside, a family owned business is, well, full of family – whether they’re qualified to be there or not. In addition, every dysfunction, every perceived slight or preference is magnified when it’s done within the confines of a family business. The brothers at the company where I worked were constantly at each others throats. Literally. On several occasions, their father had to physically break up hallway fist fights. Did I mention the brothers were men in their 40’s? The only person they hated more than each other was their mother. We knew this because they frequently, and loudly, referred to her as “that b***h!” In hindsight I realize that the brothers knew they were absolutely unqualified for the positions they held and so did their best to distract the rest of us from that fact.
Later on in my career I worked for a much larger family owned business. This family seemed genuinely passionate about their product and their business. But for all their passion, they couldn’t muster up enough management skill to effectively run the organization. The kind of hiring and planning errors the owners of the company made were the kind discussed in entry level B School courses. Entry level assistants were seeing the writing on the wall before upper management was. The truth is, passion alone doesn’t make a manager a good one. Those of us who aren’t born with the instinct to lead and lead well, learn it through a combination of formal education and on the job training. When family members are hired simply because they share a last name with the company, employees, investors and the corporate image are the ones who suffer the most.
My days of working with family owned businesses are over. And although I read stories every day about good ones – Chic-fil-A has developed an excellent business model for folding family into the business – I’m still a little gun shy. The truth is, when they get it right, nothing beats the combination of management skill and passion that comes with a family owned businesses. The problem is, a lot of them aren’t getting it right. Do you work for a family owned business? Have they gotten it right, and if not, what are they missing? Share your responses in the comment section or on twitter @reallybadboss.



