And this girl has got to go back to work. Like 9-5, morning commute, fire-breathing-dragon-for-a-boss work. After two (almost) blissful years of no weave wearing diva giving me orders or insane little person demanding I demonstrate loyalty by “drinking the kool-aid”, it’s time to get back to the grind.
I will miss not having to show up to work half-deaf and blind with a sinus infection because my suspicious boss doesn’t really think I’m sick. I’ll miss never feeling secure enough to take my weeks and weeks of accumulated vacation because I just might be replaced while I’m gone. And I’ll miss the complete and utter sense of freedom I’ve felt over the last couple of years. But alas, freedom is not free. Bills need to be paid, and my history of incredibly bad bosses aside, the 9-5 beckons. Sort of. Here’s what’s different this time around. I’ve finally, finally learned a few hard earned lessons about being gainfully employed. Wanna hear it? Here it go…
My bosses don’t owe me anything except the paycheck I get in return for my work. They are not required to be nice, respectful, honest, fair or just. It would be awesome if they were, but unless I work at a Sunday School, I’m not expecting to see any Christ-like tendencies among my bosses. Unlike 15 years ago when I first entered the workforce with visions of receiving nurturing and growth from a company from which I’d retire 20 years later – 401K and pension intact – I now realize that helping prepare me for my future is not a company’s responsibility, it’s my own.
Companies are in business to make money for themselves, not for Denise. And no matter how brilliant, hard-working or loyal I am, for them I am simply a means to an end. I am not their friend, trusted companion or loyal supporter, and they aren’t mine. And by I and mine, I mean you and yours. Are many bosses incompetent, ridiculous and infuriating? Absolutely. And, as long as they continue to be, I’ll be writing about them here (and then I’ll pass the mantle on to my grandchildren, who’ll pass it on to their grandchildren…you get the point.) But, there’s a difference between wanting them to change their behavior and needing them to. I want my bosses to be competent, generous, intelligent people, but I no longer need them to be. Why? I’ll tell you on Wednesday.
Do you need your boss to be competent, intelligent, nice…? Share your thoughts on what we should and shouldn’t expect from our bosses and our jobs in the comment section.